Advice needed

I'm going to a wedding tomorrow and I don't know what to wear. Most of the friends that I have made here were already married with kids when I met them, so I have only been to a couple of weddings since living here. I have noticed that the dress code seems a little different from back home. Back home there are lots of pastel suits, floral dresses and hats. I've seen more cocktail style dresses here. I've also seen way too much cleavage and leg on a couple of guests, but I'm thinking they were probably the exception to the rule and that prostitute style attire is not usually acceptable, even in California...

So, here's the dilemma: I own two dresses, both bought when I was a few pounds lighter, but I haven't had much luck finding anything else. The wedding is at 6pm, so it's an evening wedding. The invite was in the style of a carnival poster, though, so I have no idea what to expect. The groom has full-sleeve tattoos and judging by his facebook pics, his bride looks fun-loving, so I don't think they will worry much.


Which do you think? Which is better for a wedding? Actually, I'd probably settle for whichever makes me look better. The black / cream dress feels more formal and wedding-like, but I feel a little bosomy in it. On a related note, I'm also wishing that I hadn't eaten like a pig on my visit home, but restraint goes out the window when faced with good British food that I've been missing...


32 comments:

  1. Since you say the invitation was in style of a carnival poster it does not sound like it is going to be formal. With that information although it is an evening wedding I like the printed long sleeve dress better. And since it is summer, I like the sandals you are wearing with that dress more than the formal shoes with the black dress.

    Just my thoughts. Let us know what you end up with.

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  2. I like the paisley patterned dress - it looks more hip and fun and I think it's totally appropriate for a non-traditional, evening wedding. Plus it sounds like you're a bit more comfortable in it, which will make you feel better! Hope you have a great time.

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  3. Definitely the blue patterned dress - it looks lovely. And that's what I would wear to an English wedding, too! Hats are definitely optional nowadays in England - and only mother of the bride types wear pastel suits, which I think can be considered progress.

    Pomona x

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  4. They're both great but I too would go with the long sleeved dress. Just in case you get there and feel out of place why don't you take the other one with you and you can do a quick change if necessary.

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  5. I think the black and white looks better. Round necks suit flat chested better and I suspect ye to be a bit of a busty wench. that said though they both look great and I personally would wear the paisley as it is such a good dress.
    Have a great time!

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  6. I think the blue printed dress - it looks much more fun & hip, whereas the B&W dress looks too formal for the kind of wedding it sounds like. I'm totally with you on the cleavage front - I always admire people who can do it as I for one, can't! I just don't like the idea of people talking to my chest as opposed to me! have fun!

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  7. I like the print dress. It doesn't sound like the wedding will be formal. Love the shoes you are wearing with the black dress, by the way.

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  8. Oh the paisley ...

    it's gorgeous and you look more 'you' in it .. not that I know you of course, so don't listen to me ... but

    I think it really suits you better than the bosomy b/w one ...

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  9. I vote for the patterned dress, as well. You look great in it!

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  10. Another vote for the patterned dress here. You look lovely in both but the patterned does sound like it'll be more appropriate. By the way, the pattern looks a little tattoo-like I think, so don't go standing too close to the groom will you!

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  11. count me in for the patterned dress, and if you need you can dress it up with a blingy little clutch and a little sparkle in the shoe!

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  12. both great but I too vote for the pattern :)

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  13. Oh boy ... looks like the patterned dress is a winner - that's my vote too! It is a bit more hip (less formal) and from how you described they couple I think you would be more comfortable in that one.

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  14. Another vote for the patterned dress, love it and sounds like it's a more suitable choice from your description if both the groom and the invitation. Have fun!

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  15. i love the blue dress! first, it looks great on you, and second, it's unique and will set you apart from all the other black dresses that will be in attendance!

    you look fabulous, life is too short to not eat when you're on holiday. move past it! :)

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  16. prob a bit late now but I love the paisley dress too, vey chic, hope you have/had a great time x

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  17. Definitely the blue dress. I love the way the sandals look with it.
    I have to laugh when you talk about the good food at home in Britain. My daughter came home from London on Friday and her only complaint about the trip was the food. She's a vegetarian and claims that all people eat in England is meat.
    Unfortunately, it didn't help her to lose weight. It seems as though she managed to find French pastry shops to fill the need instead of real food.

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  18. Not sure if it's too late and it looks like you already have a good idea of what people think, but I'll chime in with the blue patterned dress. It's wonderful, goes with the mood of the wedding invite and looks great on you. The strappy sandals too!

    Weddings are all over the place here in the US. Unless you know the bride well enough to have discussed what she envisions during the reception your only clue is the invite. I've been to fancy cocktail dress, barefoot with a casual summer dress on the beach, jeans at the park, you name it. But yes, generally a nice cocktail dress will do and no, prostitute style attire is not acceptable. (;

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  19. Patterned dress defo, it's really cool but would look fab at a carnival style wedding.
    twiggy

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  20. I'm with lots of others and think the patterned dress and sandals! Lovely Dress!

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  21. Oh, the blue - you look fantastic in it and it's funky without being too informal. You'll look fab regardless of what the other guests are wearing.

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  22. I like the print dress better... I think looks great on you! Have fun...

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  23. Patterned dress but swap the shoes. Then again what do I know I live in London!

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  24. Love the tunic dress!! That said you should wear whichever one you will feel most comfortable in.

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  25. The patterned dress looked lovely on you, the strappy sandals goes well with the dress.

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  26. Which did you chose to wear!? I hope you chose the one on the left! They're both lovely but I love that design on it.

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  27. Patterned dress definitely. Also, don't take the other one with you and change - whatever you wear, wear with CONFIDENCE. As to the bustiness of the black dress, you need a thin, sphagetti-strapped little stretch cotton vest top to pop underneath. Problem solved! Oh and pastel suits/hats more or less went out in the late 1990s here in the UK, it's all cocktail dresses too!!

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  28. Hi! I discovered your blog just today!..i think is very interesting! I'm an italian girl and i've been living in england for one year . I really understand you when you speak about homesick.. sometimes is hard even for me!
    Have a nice day!
    Annalisa

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  29. blue patterned for me. love your blog...
    i had a look for a loose/ pinned up hairstyle which i think would add some height and formality ...and found some just with a google seach - messy bun. post some pictures when you are ready to go.

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  30. Hello Today I visit your blog ... how cute!
    Both dresses are very cute.
    Greetings from Costa Rica,

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